A week or so ago, I was in Hannaford. I was in an isle with
an older lady. She dropped her pen and I bent down to pick it up for her. As I did
that I said, “Don’t worry about bending down. I got it for you, ma’am.” I was
only doing it out of kindness but I could see on her face that she was thrown
back by what I said. I could see how she might take this as an insult to her
age. This happened in everyday life, in a public facility. After I had walked
away from the lady I felt embarrassed. After this week, I realized that was a
form of microaggression.
One of the biggest things that I took away this week was
that prejudices, stereotypes, and discrimination are unintentional. It still
hurts deep for those that are the target. It is our lack of understanding and
many times our unconscious feeling of superiority and ignorance our society
puts out. In terms of the lady in Hannaford, I did make a judgment by her age
in my mind. As a teacher I need to think before I speak. I need to put myself
in others shoes. Ask questions and find resources about cultures and the
prejudices I have and our society has. Prejudices, stereotypes and
discrimination are due to the lack of knowledge and superiority that people
feel like they need or think that have.